As a relationship progresses it’s important to know whether or not your beau is truly making you happy or if you’re just lying to yourself out of ‘comfort.’ No relationship is perfect – as time goes by you are always going to find something to fight about and something about him that irritates you. However, there is a difference between experiencing the normal ups and downs of a relationship and being in a relationship that just isn’t right for you. Sometimes the rough patches will mull over – but sometimes they won’t. It’s important to know whether or not your beau is the man for you or if he is just a roadblock in your journey to happiness.To help, we have made a list of the top 10 signs that’s your beau isn’t for you.
1. Ignoring a deal-breaker
Everyone has a list of important qualities that you want your dream beau to have. Sometimes they’re small like being a good dresser and sometimes their big yet simple like getting along with your family. If your beau has a deal-breaker, you can only ignore it for so long because in the end it’s always going to matter.
2. Consistent Fighting
Like I said earlier, every couple fights – it’s inevitable. However, if you find yourself fighting every night, something is wrong. I don’t mean yelling at him to get his stinky feet off the table or to clean up after himself – I’m talking about a legitimate argument that lasts over ten minutes or with one of you leaving the room.
3. Are You # 1?
Now don’t take this too literally – being your beau’s main priority doesn’t mean he has to wait at your hands and knees 24/7, he’s allowed to have a life of his own just like you are entitled to a life of your own. However, if he’s not putting your feelings into consideration before doing something or rather see his friends before seeing you, ditch the boy.
4. Do You Question the Love?
The best boyfriends are the one’s who aren’t afraid to make you feel like you’re the best thing that has ever happened to them. At the end of the day he should be making you feel like you’re too good for him without actually feeling like you’re better than him. However, if your beau refuses to shower you with compliments or make you feel special, you don’t need him.
5. Walking on Eggshells
When you’re in a long-term relationship, you and your beau should feel comfortable enough to say just about anything to each other. However, if you find yourself constantly watching what say in fear of hurting his feelings or sparking a fight something is wrong. Your relationship should be your safe haven, where you two can make fun of eachother and laugh it off because you know that in the end you love each other.
6. He’s Comfortable Lying to You
I know it’s a cliche – but honesty is the most important thing in a healthy relationship. If your beau is lying to you about even small things, I assure you it’s only going to get worse over time. Even if you see him only lying to others you need to take a step back and ask yourself what is keeping him from lying to me if okay with lying to everyone else.
7. Important Conversations Don’t Happen
If every time you try to discuss an important topic with him and he only responds with vague answers, then you have a communication problem. If he doesn’t know how to talk about something serious, then he isn’t mature enough to be in a relationship and most likely never will be until someone gives him a wakeup call.
8. He holds things against you
When I say he holds things against you I don’t just mean something bad you did, I mean everything. If you’re beau refuses to go have dinner with your family because he went to a movie with you last night, he’s a jerk. There are no points and reward systems in a relationship, if you love someone you’re ultimate goal is to make them happy, not build up relationship credit so you can get yourself out of something later.
9. There’s nothing to say
When your mom or dad told you to “marry your best friend,” they were right. If you have no common interests besides getting physical together, then you have no relationship – you have a booty call. In the end, it’s important that you and your beau love to talk and listen to each other because when you’re older that’s all you’ll have with your beau.
10. Your gut tells you something is wrong
No matter how much you love someone, if you have a gut feeling that he’s just not the one, you need to listen to it. Do not be blinded or sucked in by the comfort of being in a relationship. If he’s not the one, he’s not the one. It doesn’t mean you can’t have each other in your lives, it just means you need to be brave enough to let yourself find the person who you don’t have to question when it comes to being your soulmate.